Guide to Muslim Dating

Muslim marriages have traditionally occurred with family or friends as the intermediaries, but now the internet has revolutionised internet dating and is a real added option for bringing single Muslims together. Matchmaking websites have removed the “personal” connections people have always relied on when finding a spouse and the lack of choice and compatibility associated with family introductions that could be biased towards extended families and out-dated practices that are in conflict with Islamic values. Muslims can post their own profiles on of who they are and what they are looking for in spouse. has created a virtual network and provided accessibility to seek and meet Muslims from various regions of the world. has created a greater pool of people to meet and choose from; this is beneficial for new Muslims and those living in areas where there are few like-minded people, because meeting a potential spouse offline can be difficult if there is no social network established.

Muslim Dating: Haram or Halal?

There is a lot of debate as to whether Muslims are allowed to date at all. Premarital sex in the Muslim religion is strictly forbidden. Since dating (in the Western sense) involves actions like kissing and touching which ultimately result in premarital sex, Islamic scholars consider that dating is haram (forbidden). So, traditionally, Islamic marriages were arranged with the couple not having any unsupervised time together before the marriage – or possibly even meeting each other before the engagement and this tradition which was abused, led to unhappy marriages for a number of reasons. In Islam a man and women can meet each other face to face under Islamic rules.

Things are changing though, and especially in the Muslim immigrant communities. These more-liberal Muslims believe that Muslim Dating is simply a way to get to know each other. Muslim men and women aren’t relying solely on their aunty matchmakers anymore. They are taking part in Muslim matrimonial sites, halal speed dating, and other events. They talk, meet, and get to know each other.

Prophet Muhammad (S) instructed:

"No man has the right to be in the privacy with a woman who is not lawful for him. Satan is their third party unless there is a mahram". (Ahmad)

"When one of you seeks a woman in marriage, and then if he is able to have a look at whom he wishes to marry, let him do so".(Abu Dawood)

For Muslim dating to be halal, both partners have to date with the sole goal and intention of marriage. A lot of Islamic scholars have further defined halal Muslim dating with these simple set of rules:

  • The date occurs in a public place.
  • The date does not occur in seclusion (khulwa) unless there is a chaperone (mahram).
  • Flirting and physical contact are forbidden, you are there to establish a spiritual connection.
  • Dress modesty and adhere to Islamic codes of etiquette.
  • The family is usually involved, such as in the introduction process.

With all said and done we know physical attraction, status and other matters are usually at the top of most people’s preferences, which is fine but your intention if sincere will help you find that special one. Don’t forget to look for those Islamic virtues in a partner.


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